60 http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/obc/messages/ en-us Copyright Ohana Baptist Church Child Training classes at Ohana Baptist Church Ohana Baptist Church Chid Training Classes at Ohana Baptist Church is a series of Sunday School lessons. If you want to raise your children right, you need a manual. See what the Bible says about child training in this series on the family. Ohana Baptist Church pastorwayne@obchurch.org Pastor Wayne Surface Conclusion to the series Fairy Tale Families A look back and review of Fairy Tale Families. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4642 Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:30:23 -0800 2343 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Fathers provoke not your children to wrath. Sometimes you need to be literal with the Bible, other times people are too literal with the Bible. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4625 Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:30:38 -0800 2529 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of Families Fantasy characters and games. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4611 Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:30:20 -0800 2204 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Electronics and your Teens As a parent, do you feel like technology has taken over your teenager's world. Does your teenager spend what seems like hours texting or literally hours on the computer? Or do you sometimes feel a sense of distance in your relationship with you teenager because technology? Here are 7 tips for parents of the wired generation: Be aware, Become a consistent user, Embrace technology, Help them discover balance, Teach responsibility, Strengthen your relationship by using technology and Establish some rules. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4585 Sun, 18 Oct 2009 16:30:38 -0700 2496 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continuing acronym of teenagers In the acronym of teenagers is: Encouraged, Rebuke, and Security http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4571 Sun, 11 Oct 2009 16:30:31 -0700 2340 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of How to have a Fairy Tale Family Establishing, and maintaining rules with your teenagers. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4548 Sun, 27 Sep 2009 16:30:10 -0700 2235 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of How to have a Fairy Tale Family Needs: You in the zoo, learning to speak their language, and the perfect child. Anger: Listen more, talk less; stop, look, and listen; keep it sweet and low; and don't point, poke, or push. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4544 Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:30:06 -0700 2496 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Earning and enlisting your child. Earning their respect and respecting what they earn. Enlisting their help and helping them enlist. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4524 Sun, 13 Sep 2009 16:30:17 -0700 2702 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of How to have a Fairy Tale Family Continued study of How to have a Fairy Tale Family http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4536 Sun, 06 Sep 2009 16:30:18 -0700 2428 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface How to choose the right school for your child What are my goals academically? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4489 Sun, 23 Aug 2009 16:30:46 -0700 2374 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface How to choose the right school for your child What are my goals academically? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4477 Sun, 16 Aug 2009 16:30:58 -0700 2564 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface How to choose the right school for your child What are my goals academically? To learn how and to enjoy reading. Learn how to gain understanding or to think for themselves. To have knowledge with love. Physically the school is teaching a healthy lifestyle. To learn discipline. To learn to control their emotions and thoughts and actions. Spiritually we want them to learn how to love GOD. To learn how to study GOD's word. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4466 Sun, 09 Aug 2009 16:30:21 -0700 2631 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface How to choose the right school for your child Make a decision as a parent. Do not choose by default. Choose for each child as an individual. Father should be involved in the process. Father has the responsibility to check. Build a philosophy of education. To depart knowledge. All education is religious by nature. History must be studied as "His story", GOD's story. To Glorify GOD. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4454 Sun, 02 Aug 2009 16:30:28 -0700 2701 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline: Punishment You need to set the standards. Make it clear. Pronouncing judgment and condemning the action otherwise he will justify himself, and transfer or blame. Do not excuse your child's bad behavior. Do not rebuke him publicly. Levels of disobedience: Not accountable or unintentional - you rebuke only , Accountable(they know/ should have known better) - you rebuke and punish. Willfully Disobedience- Chastise and punish, Confession- you want them to confess their sin. Admission of guilt- needs to be verbal admission of guilt. Willingness to accept responsibility. Forgiveness. Follow through and restore the fellowship. Punish but be in control. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4427 Sun, 19 Jul 2009 16:30:47 -0700 2531 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline: Chastisement and Punishment Chastisement is done to stop rebellion, to bring submission to authority, to break their will not their spirit. Chastisement should be done to humble our child and not to hurt them. Punishment is the consequence of their actions. Punishment for not doing the right thing.Punishment is the consequence of their actions. Punishment for not doing the right thing for disobeying. An accident shouldn't be chastised. Chastisement seizes when confession is made, but there are still consequences( punishment) to their actions. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4419 Sun, 12 Jul 2009 16:30:01 -0700 2653 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline: Chastisement and Punishment Chastisement must include scripture, and must include judgment. Chastisement is a biblical imperative. We need to chasten our own children. It should be done with love. It is done to restore fellowship, To teach wisdom.There is a purpose; to stop rebellion, to bring submission to authority, to break their will not their spirit. Chastisement should be done to humble our child and not to hurt them. Punishment is the consequence of their actions. Punishment for not doing the right thing. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4409 Sun, 05 Jul 2009 16:30:14 -0700 2682 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline: Chastisement Chastisement must include scripture, and must include judgment. Chastisement is a biblical imperative. We need to chasten our own children. It should be done with love. It is done to restore fellowship, To teach wisdom.There is a purpose; to stop rebellion, to bring submission to authority, to break their will not their spirit. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4398 Sun, 28 Jun 2009 16:30:28 -0700 2715 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline Continued. Set a standard for our children.Teach and Preach to our children, We should Reprove( what they should not do), Rebuke(what they should do), and Exhort( to encourage to do right) our children. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4381 Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:30:54 -0700 2569 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Discipling through Discipline Continued. Rules to teach your child. Set the law. Preach to them. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4370 Mon, 15 Jun 2009 04:30:08 -0700 2413 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Trust but verify Teach them not to lie. Teach them to be Honest with their words and actions. Teach them Self control with their behavior towards others. Teach them good manners and what matters. Respect other people rights and properties. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4360 Sun, 07 Jun 2009 19:30:18 -0700 2775 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Importance of Discipline in Discipleship. Without Discipline there is no Discipleship. Teaching the Bible. Obey, submit, respect, and honor authority. Teach your kids honesty and self control. Teach them to follow instructions; they must listen, no forgetting, no questioning. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4346 Sun, 31 May 2009 19:30:28 -0700 2636 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Importance of Discipline in Discipleship. Without Discipline there is no Discipleship. Teaching the Bible, Obey and submit to Authority. Teach your kids honesty and self control. Teach them to follow instructions; they must listen, no forgetting, no questioning. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4336 Sun, 24 May 2009 16:30:41 -0700 2546 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface In order to establish your authority your children must learn: Obedience, Honor, and Respect. Earn their respect by loving them. Around 6-12 years old it is time to teach a child why they have to obey. Honor comes after obedience is established. Obedience is the "what" and Teaching is the "why". By the time they are teenagers they have to Respect you. You have to earn their Respect by loving them and knowing their Love language is important. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4317 Sun, 17 May 2009 16:30:52 -0700 2599 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface How to establish your authority. In order to establish your authority your children must learn: Obedience, Honor, and Respect. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4289 Sun, 03 May 2009 16:30:03 -0700 2949 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Teach them to catch and throw; Teaching them wisdom and for them to learn(catch) it. Keeping their eye on the ball i.e. paying attention, staying focus. How to get a good grip. Having a good foundation. Teach our kids to do things in life. Provide them with the tools they need. Make plans for life but understand that GOD is in control. Our children need to be content, but also with goals. Teach our kids to flee from sin. Teach them how to deal with reality. We need to establish our Authority. Establish obedience to our child, to honor, and respect authority. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4263 Sun, 26 Apr 2009 16:30:20 -0700 2620 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Knowledge, wisdom, instruction and understanding are essential in child training. Having a goal to aim at. The little train that could. Make it enjoyable. Bend, but don't break. Knowledge is learning by experience. Wisdom is skill, craftsman,and comes with practice. Instruction or the Discipline to do it. Understanding- you can take what you have learned and apply it and transfer it in different situations. Have a goal to shoot at. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4250 Sun, 19 Apr 2009 16:30:31 -0700 2555 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Introduction to the series. The little train that could. Make it enjoyable. Bend, but don't break. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4064 Sun, 29 Mar 2009 16:30:45 -0700 2758 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Review and summary lesson. Ready, aim, fire. Follow the right path. Love your child. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3378 Sun, 07 May 2006 16:30:04 -0700 2423 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Review and summary lesson. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3369 Sun, 23 Apr 2006 16:30:19 -0700 2693 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Choose your method of education. Public school, Christian school, home school. Pros, cons, and precautions. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3340 Sun, 19 Mar 2006 17:30:44 -0800 2569 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Specific goals of education for my child. Choose your method of education. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3336 Sun, 12 Mar 2006 17:29:59 -0800 2566 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Education Choices. Establish a Biblical basis of education. What is the purpose of education? Specific goals of education for my child. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3332 Sun, 05 Mar 2006 17:30:05 -0800 2411 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Education Choices. It is the parents' responsibility to choose. Establish a Biblical basis of education. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3328 Sun, 26 Feb 2006 17:30:18 -0800 2577 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. REBUKE. Admonish, Rebuke (Reprove), Punish, Chastise. SECURITY. Secure marriage, secure in love. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3323 Sun, 19 Feb 2006 17:30:33 -0800 2236 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. GOOD. Make it tasty. Make it spicy. ENCOURAGE. Have the courage to wait, to stand, from God. REBUKE. Admonish, Rebuke (Reprove), Punish, Chastise. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3318 Sun, 12 Feb 2006 17:30:47 -0800 2831 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. ANGER. Listen more, talk less. Stop, look and listen. Keep it sweet and low. Don't point, poke, or push. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3313 Sun, 05 Feb 2006 18:30:08 -0800 2418 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. ENLIST. Enlist their help, get them involved. Negotiate a contract. Help them to enlist. Go to the zoo. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3310 Sun, 29 Jan 2006 18:30:22 -0800 2676 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. EARN. Earn their respect. Respect what they earn. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3303 Sun, 22 Jan 2006 18:30:36 -0800 2688 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Dealing with teenagers, especially if you have not raised them right before their teen years. Teach them to READ. Teach them to Think, teach them to Read, teach them to Drive. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3299 Sun, 15 Jan 2006 18:30:49 -0800 2519 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Mistakes that Christian parents make. Being Inconsistent. Failing to learn. Not allowing expression of feeling or thoughts. Making spiritual decisions for your children. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3296 Sun, 08 Jan 2006 18:30:01 -0800 2560 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Mistakes that Christian parents make. Taking the Bible too literally, or not literally enough. Being too strict or harsh. Lack of balance. Inability to adjust. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3291 Sun, 01 Jan 2006 18:30:13 -0800 2641 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline When to teach your child. Chastisement vs. Punishment. Whats the difference? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3286 Sun, 18 Dec 2005 18:30:26 -0800 2617 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline When to teach your child. Chastisement vs. Punishment. Whats the difference? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3282 Sun, 11 Dec 2005 18:30:40 -0800 2614 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline When to teach your child. Chastisement vs. Punishment. Whats the difference? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3276 Sun, 04 Dec 2005 18:30:30 -0800 2782 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline When to teach your child. Chastisement vs. Punishment. Whats the difference? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3272 Sun, 27 Nov 2005 18:30:42 -0800 2604 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline When to teach your child. Chastisement vs. Punishment. Whats the difference? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3266 Sun, 20 Nov 2005 18:30:55 -0800 2800 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Continued study of discipline: When to teach your child. Set the standard. Preach to them. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3263 Sun, 13 Nov 2005 18:30:17 -0800 2839 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Teach your child: Honor, Self Control, to Follow Instructions, Discerning, Your Rules. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3244 Sun, 16 Oct 2005 17:30:35 -0700 3109 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Love your child: By your actions, by your feelings. Discipline your child: Obediance and Respect for authority. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3238 Sun, 09 Oct 2005 17:30:17 -0700 2427 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Train up a child in the way that he should go. Discipline your children. Establish your authority. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3228 Sun, 25 Sep 2005 17:30:32 -0700 2674 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Ready, Aim, Fire! Aiming your child in the right direction. No pain, no gain; Chastisement. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3224 Sun, 18 Sep 2005 17:30:42 -0700 2727 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Teach your children knowledge, wisdom, instruction, understanding. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3215 Sun, 11 Sep 2005 17:30:06 -0700 2787 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Child training. Your hardware and software. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3211 Sun, 04 Sep 2005 17:30:18 -0700 2747 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Introduction to the series. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3203 Sun, 28 Aug 2005 17:30:33 -0700 2160 family, friends