60 http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/obc/messages/ en-us Copyright Ohana Baptist Church Marriage classes at Ohana Baptist Church Ohana Baptist Church Marriage Classes at Ohana Baptist Church is a series of Sunday School lessons. Learn how to have the marriage that God intended you to have, with practical, Biblical teaching. Ohana Baptist Church pastorwayne@obchurch.org Pastor Wayne Surface All the choices you make in life change you and mold you into what you are today. Every culture has generalities that while they do not apply to everyone from that culture they can be identified with that culture. Traditional versus Non-Traditional family types. Cross cultural marriages should celebrate and embrace their cultural differences. Understanding birth order can bring in a whole new understanding for married couples. We need to find the strengths in our differences. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5873 Sun, 13 Nov 2011 19:07:01 -0800 2875 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Women and Men are different which is not to imply that one is greater than the other just that we should study and understand our differences. Five reasons men and women are different. Understanding those differences and applying them. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5866 Sun, 06 Nov 2011 20:33:01 -0800 2743 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface A sub-lesson in marriage on different personalities. The Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, and Beaver. A sub-lesson in marriage on different personalities. The Lion personality is the natural leader and expects obedience. The Otter personality is very friendly. They are procrastinators. The Golden Retriever personality is very emotional, dependent, and sympathetic. The Beaver personality is orderly, self-sacrificing, and very detailed oriented. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5822 Sun, 16 Oct 2011 19:30:01 -0700 2941 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Ther are four basic commands for husbands and four basic commands for wives. For husbands: Be the leader, Love your wife, Honor (Value) your wife , and to nurture your wife. For Wives: Submit to your husband, meet his needs , Reverence your husband, and be a helper to your husband. Versus for reference: GEN 2:18, SAL 121:2, PRO 31:12, GAL 5:16-17, PRO 30:19, 2nd TIM 2:21, EPH 5:27, 2nd PET 1:13. Next week: Observational truth based on a biblical perspective. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5813 Sun, 09 Oct 2011 19:38:01 -0700 3000 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Wives should respect their husbands, and represent them well. Husbands should love and honor their wives. Husbands need a wife to represent them well Proverbs 31-23 He who finds a wife finds a good thing; Proverbs 18-22. 1st peter Ch.3 Vs. 4-5, a wife is to adorn her husband. As a wife chooses jewelry to help look her best, a husband needs a wife be a compliment to him. Wives should build up their husbands not tear then down; proverbs 14-1 The Husband is to honor 1st peter Ch.3 Vs. 7, To honor her is to value her. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5788 Sun, 25 Sep 2011 19:27:01 -0700 2628 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Romance is an important part of Marriage, Proverbs 25-15, 1st Peter 3-7, Proverbs 15-1. Men are instructed by God to Love their wives. Wives are instructed to respond to their Husbands. Cherish your wife and understand that she cannot be what she is not. You cannot pick an orange from a Lemon tree. Romance is important but understand that men and women have different ideas of what romance is. Women want power under control A soft voice Proverbs 25-15: By long forbearing is a prince spoken in a soft tongue. A soft touch is important in romance. 1st Peter 3-7 Part of romance is to respond to her softly Proverbs 15-1 The wife should reverence her husband. Husbands need respect more than Love. Ephesians 5-33, Deuteronomy 10-12, 1st Peter 3-6 http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5759 Sun, 11 Sep 2011 19:27:01 -0700 2606 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The husband is to Love his wife. The wife needs to respond to her husband's love. The husband is to nurture his wife. The husband is to Love his wife. It takes a man of Godly character to Love a wife who is unlovable. God loves all people regardless of their sin or actions. The wife is to Love her husband. She needs to respond to her husband's love. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5749 Sun, 04 Sep 2011 19:30:01 -0700 2432 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The husband is commanded to love his wife. Husbands and wives need to speak the right love language to each other. The husband is commanded to love his wife. Most wives do not feel loved by their husband. Husbands and wives need to speak the right love language to each other. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5738 Sun, 28 Aug 2011 19:30:01 -0700 2583 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The husband is to be the leader (not the boss). Leadership comes with responsibility. The wife should be submissive. The husband is to be the leader (not the boss). Leadership comes with responsibility. The ultimate decision falls on the husband. The wife should be submissive. They need to trust their husband. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5727 Sun, 21 Aug 2011 19:30:01 -0700 2716 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Seek the word of God to as a tool to add to your tool box Some tools you have available to you are reading, scripture, counsel, and the power of the holy Spirit. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5717 Sun, 14 Aug 2011 16:30:01 -0700 2905 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface A continuation on the building a better marriage classes. A continuation on the building a better marriage classes. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5705 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 19:30:01 -0700 2715 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Learning to build a strong, Godly marriage. Learning to build a strong, Godly marriage. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5689 Sun, 31 Jul 2011 19:15:01 -0700 2582 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface We need to follow God's blueprint. Divorce is not an option. We need to follow God's blueprint. Divorce is not an option. When you break you marriage, you break the image of Christ. Find a way to make it work. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/5675 Sun, 24 Jul 2011 19:35:01 -0700 2781 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The actions of love. Love is not a feeling, but a fact. Love "rejoiceth not in iniquity", Love "beareth all things", Love "believeth all things", Love "hopeth all things", Love "endureth all things", Love "never fails". http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4052 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 16:30:43 -0700 1762 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The actions of love. Love "vaunteth not itself". Love "is not puffed up". Love "doth not behave itself unseemly". Love "seeketh not her own". Love "is not easily provoked". http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4048 Sun, 01 Mar 2009 17:30:49 -0800 2559 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Love. Love is not a feeling, but a fact (action). God commands us to love. Feelings don't change facts. Actions change feelings. Love is the greatest gift. The actions of love: Loev suffereth long, love is kind, love envieth not. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4045 Sun, 22 Feb 2009 17:30:20 -0800 2552 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The dangers of the internet. Online: It's not anonymous. Keep your good name. Without a God. Line Line is gone out to all the world. Build a line; can be a great study tool. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4040 Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:30:47 -0800 2163 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The dangers of the internet. Net; it's a trap. Make a way of escape. Build a better mouse trap. World Wide Web; Of the world, wide is the way. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4036 Sun, 08 Feb 2009 17:30:49 -0800 2296 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface WWW or WWF? The internet. No Accountability; to God, to yourself, to each other, accountability partner. Net; it's a net, a trap. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4032 Sun, 01 Feb 2009 16:40:32 -0800 2426 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The dangers of pornography. Fire extinguishers, aim for the base of the fire. Fire insurance; you can be forgiven and get right with God, but you can still loose a lot. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4029 Sun, 25 Jan 2009 17:30:05 -0800 1897 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The dangers of pornography. Never satisfied, loss of desire. Burn with desire. Only you can prevent forest fires. Get rid of the clutter, those things that might lead to a problem. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4024 Sun, 18 Jan 2009 17:30:48 -0800 2421 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The dangers of pornography today. Where there's smoke, there's fire. Setup your smoke detectors. Fire. Burn with the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4019 Sun, 11 Jan 2009 17:30:53 -0800 2672 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface **This lesson is intended for married couples only** Sexual Intimacy in marriage. Things that hinder a healthy sexual relationship in marriage. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/4002 Sun, 07 Dec 2008 17:30:04 -0800 1352 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface **This lesson is intended for married couples only** Sexual Intimacy in marriage. For his/her pleasure. Future pleasure. Undefiled; pornography, what is right or wrong. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3997 Sun, 30 Nov 2008 17:30:50 -0800 2435 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface **This lesson is intended for married couples only** Sexual Intimacy in marriage. One flesh relationship. Honorable, and undefiled. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3994 Sun, 23 Nov 2008 17:30:06 -0800 2500 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface **This lesson is intended for married couples only** Intimacy and the physical relationship in marriage. Emotional Intimacy; Creates a lasting love. Physical Intimacy, sexual Intimacy. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3987 Sun, 09 Nov 2008 17:30:15 -0800 2668 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Be Industrious; Work to understand the what, not the why. Work to learn and grow. Edify. Attack the problem, not the person. Minister grace, use your gifts of the spirit. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3977 Sun, 26 Oct 2008 16:30:06 -0700 2252 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Morphing your Marriage. Be honest, be current. Not holding on to hurts, let it go. Hurts to get rid of. Voice your problems, forgive one another. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3974 Sun, 19 Oct 2008 16:30:11 -0700 2598 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface A thousand words are worth a picture; Ought your thoughts, pass your praise. Morph your marriage; be honest. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3970 Sun, 12 Oct 2008 16:30:34 -0700 2633 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Communication. Learn another (love) language. How they listen, how the communicate, how they define words. Learn body language. Only 7% of communication is verbal. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3965 Sun, 05 Oct 2008 16:30:24 -0700 2091 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Differences between men and women. Childhood differences, birth order, education, traumatic experiences, age differences. Spiritual differences. Contrasts, find strength in your differences. Introduction to the love languages. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3961 Sun, 28 Sep 2008 16:30:29 -0700 2487 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The differences between men and women. Social, spiritual, cultural. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3957 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 16:30:27 -0700 2139 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Review of the 4 character types. Men and Women are different in many ways by creation. Physical differences, mental differences, social differences, spiritual differences. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3953 Sun, 14 Sep 2008 16:30:05 -0700 2679 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Character Types. What type of personality are you and your spouse? Lion, born leader, take charge. Otter. Friendly, fun loving. Golden Retriever, sensitive, nurturing. Beaver, orderly, analytical. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3946 Sun, 31 Aug 2008 16:30:50 -0700 2819 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Commands to the husband and wife continued. The husband is to honor his wife. Honor means to value her, to know her. The wife is to be a help-meet to her husband. Be his helper, meet his needs. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3942 Sun, 24 Aug 2008 16:30:50 -0700 2554 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Four commands. The husband is to nurture his wife. The wife is to reverence her husband. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3937 Sun, 17 Aug 2008 16:30:15 -0700 2331 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Commands to the husband and wife. The husband is to love his wife. Eros love, Phileo love, Agape love. The wife is to love her husband. Respond to your husbands love. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3933 Sun, 10 Aug 2008 16:30:17 -0700 2454 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface The husband is to be the leader. As Christ leads the church. The wife is to be the follower. She is to obey her husband. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3929 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 16:30:19 -0700 2525 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Series introduction. Wedding Albums; Take a picture of your marriage. False pictures of love. Can't have a positive without a negative. Who's that? One in the Lord. Find your worth & security in Jesus. Be Spirit controlled. Focus on the Relationship; Make a commitment. Learn the "Ah-ha" principle. http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3927 Sun, 27 Jul 2008 16:30:50 -0700 2775 family, friends Pastor Wayne Surface Introduction to the series. What's wrong with this picture? http://www.obchurch.org/index.php/messages/3921 Sun, 20 Jul 2008 16:30:24 -0700 2451 family, friends